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My name is Aidan Donnelley Rowley. I am a novelist living in New York City with my husband and three young daughters, whom I’ve affectionately dubbed the Rowlets (and Big Girl, Middle Girl, and Little Girl on this blog). I was born here in Manhattan and am the middle of five sisters. I studied philosophy at Yale, went to law school at Columbia, and practiced as a litigation associate at a big firm for a short while before jumping ship to write full-time. My first novel Life After Yes was published in 2010 and my second novel The Ramblers will be published by William Morrow in February 2016.

I started this blog, originally called Ivy League Insecurities, in 2009. At the time, I was anticipating the publication of my first book, in the trenches of parenting young kids (my eldest two were 2.5 and five months at the time) and I’d recently lost my father to cancer. Long story short, I was a bit of a mess and came here, to write, and to process my life. For the past six-plus years, I’ve continued to come here and share bits and pieces of myself and my life. I’ve written, and continue to write and ask questions, about identity, parenthood, sisterhood, marriage, loss, presence, alcohol, anxiety, nature, books and more. I cherish this spot and connecting with my readers.

I hope you take a moment to poke around this place. And I would love to hear from you at aidandonnelleyrowley [at] gmail [dot] com.




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  1. Jess

    LOVE your new site!!! Am going to be late for my spinning class because I can’t stop looking… love you too, xoxo

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  3. Hey Aidan,

    I’ve been a longtime reader of your blog, (I went to Brown, acted/modeled in NYC while also working at a hedge fund and different internet companies, got my MBA in HK, then got involved with 3 startups, before starting my own GlamGirl). I wanted to send you some beauty products to try, including our organic balms.

    Can you email me at (Your email link doesn’t work for me, for some reason!)


  4. AME

    Hello ADR,

    My name is Amanda and I find you to be an inspiration. I love all your details and the passion I can see in them, your love for your daughters and family is very admirable and sweet. I follow you on pretty much all of your social media sites and I love your posts. I’m discovering that being a creative is somewhat of an undertaking in today’s world and society, and it saddens me because our art is not valued as it should be. Writing and words are a part of my soul, but it is not very lucrative, which is a bit of a problem when you like the finer things in life and come from a well to-do family, who expect more from you. So, I was just wondering if you had any advice for a 25-year-old writer/poet who is trying to go down the path of writing and getting published, all while not being completely discouraged. Thanks! Xx

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